good advice. read my latest post about pressing the issue. the mixed signals they give are driving me nuts. keep up your work man, your making progress....
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
Thanx man. Was a great day instead and I'm still bubling from it this morning. W was out last night, but home early by her standards which was unexpected. I did see her when she got in as I woke and pleasent as has been.
Hoping for another good day today and tomorrow.
DBD. I have seen your post on her, but cannot find the MLC full story. can you post a link and I'll go catch up
Another nice day yesterday, nothing massive but little trip with all of us and was nice. I went out last night as planned and then (yet again) I am woken at 8.30 by W in a foul mood. I always let her lay in when she goes out, but she never does me. She has a silly reasoning behind it, that I left her to put both kids to bed, ermmm hang on, so if you kick me out ????
Anyway, I'm just typing as fuming as she has literally just got dressed and run out the house....WTF...Nothing said at all, just obvious she needs to get away but WTF. Such a good mother that your happy to leave your kids with a hungover dad on 5 hours sleep !!!
I just don't get it. We'd been having what I thought was a nice weekend too, so bit gutted.
I am noting this date down in case it gets messy as i'm sure lawyers would love to know what she has done !!
obivousily what is good for the goose isn't good for the gander. I have been in your shoe's gone out and end up with hang over's. I am not telling you what to do or how to GAL, but hangovers are DB enemies. Go out have a good time but keep it to moderation. You will feel better and be less reactionary, and more action. This way if the wife wakes you, you will be ready to do what you have too, and not feel like crud.
Just some advice, I struggled with having too good of a time when I first starting going out. I took about 2 months but I figured it out it did not help at all. Even if she is drunked up, still keep it cool for you and the kids.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
GF - I'm ok, I can get up and get on with stuff on not much sleep, it was more the way it was this morning that really annoyed me. She is also now using the kids(or trying to) as a weapon and I am going to speak to her about that this evening.
She keeps trying to make out I'm a bad dad and don't want to spend any time with my kids, which is so wrong, just not at 8.30 in the morning after a night out once in a while !!!
I've stayed relatively calm so far, we've had a brief chat and her whole argument is because I went out at 6.30 last night and she had to do both of their bedtimes. Then, apparently is as she can never go out early and I make her stay til they are in bed...WTF. She has never really asked !!!
Need to get past today and get a deceny sleep in tonight to get the head back on track. Currently very angry with W about it and she is texting like crazy which is winding me up..... No reason, I did ask if a man and she said no, but I really knew that or thought that anyway, but it was annoying me.
Hopefully I'll have a more positive post tomorrow.
GF - She keeps trying to make out I'm a bad dad and don't want to spend any time with my kids, which is so wrong, just not at 8.30 in the morning after a night out once in a while !!!
Need to get past today and get a deceny sleep in tonight to get the head back on track. Currently very angry with W about it and she is texting like crazy which is winding me up..... No reason, I did ask if a man and she said no, but I really knew that or thought that anyway, but it was annoying me.
Hopefully I'll have a more positive post tomorrow.
GL all
Arthur, they will spew anything at you to make their point believable in there eyes. We are all bad dads, worst dads around.
get some sleep if you can. Don't let the texting bother you, she's just trying to rile you up for a fight.
yeah man this up and down with the moods is getting me too. guess their unhappiness comes out in this way. dont let it get you into fight. i had some issues this weekend to. arthur i dont know how to post alink to my story. anyone tell me how?
Fight the good fight no matter the quality of your opponent.
Me-50 WAW-45 S13 Married 24 years Bomb 1-Jan.2008 Disc. EA She came back for 8 years Bomb 2-Jan-2016 Separation 3-12-2016
My frustrations are because this seems to have come about since we had a lovely family day on Saturday and is just so odd. W is trying to avoid me and I took kids out for afternoon, then as soon as I get home, she has now taken them out.
We are going to have a talk tonight, think more about the mood than the R (at least that is what I'm basing it on) as it's just so weird. All I can think is that maybe she met someone when out Sat night and wants me out the way more quickly all of a sudden ??? Probably just paranoia, I don't know but sone was on pc earlier on W account and whatever he did he brought up the history and called me over as didn't know what he'd done and loads of divorce websites visited today !!! WTF...
These mood swings are unreal, we've got 2 holidays in next month too, one this Thursday where were all in same room together and will be together 24/7 with kkids for 3 days !!!!
It's awkward as I feel like apologising just for peace, but why should I ? I need this chat tonight but will leave it if it's getting silly.
My frustrations are because this seems to have come about since we had a lovely family day on Saturday and is just so odd. W is trying to avoid me and I took kids out for afternoon, then as soon as I get home, she has now taken them out.
We are going to have a talk tonight, think more about the mood than the R (at least that is what I'm basing it on) as it's just so weird. All I can think is that maybe she met someone when out Sat night and wants me out the way more quickly all of a sudden ??? Probably just paranoia, I don't know but sone was on pc earlier on W account and whatever he did he brought up the history and called me over as didn't know what he'd done and loads of divorce websites visited today !!! WTF...
These mood swings are unreal, we've got 2 holidays in next month too, one this Thursday where were all in same room together and will be together 24/7 with kkids for 3 days !!!!
It's awkward as I feel like apologising just for peace, but why should I ? I need this chat tonight but will leave it if it's getting silly.
Focus Energy on your goal. Validate! Empathy! Use these phrases:
"I am sorry you feel that way" "I understand you feel that way" "It must be hard to feel that way" Nod and listen
"What is best for my kids is best for me" Amor Fati Link to quotes: https://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2879712
Again Arthur, it appears your wife is very reactionary. You do something, so she must do something. I don't know what to say about it, except I have the same thing going on at times. All I know is up and down mood swings occur when people are beyond stress, they are strained. Unfortunately "normal" thought processing goes out the window when you are strained.
Last week my W. said to me I wish this was all over so she could begin to heal. There you go! Can't heal, and evaluate everything until it is well past the point of no return. Sheer stupidity, I am sorry to say. She is so intelligent, but not when she is under stress. Honestly somedays this is just comical. I don't think they believe we are bad dads, as much as they believe if they don't have the kids the majority of the time, people will think they are bad moms.
My wife has zero tolerance for women who leave their children, but she is willing to leave the family. Hyprocracy has no bounds. I just wish she would get some help sorting through the issues from others besides her relationship dysfunctional support group. Well I stopped giving her advice, she does things her way and will cut off her nose to spite her face. She admits it! What did I marry?
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Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
