LL, I know where you are coming from. For years my W has been the same way while I've put most of the energy into our R. For some time, as you know, I was thinking the same thoughts as you. However, lately this dynamic is changing.
You know, I've read of similar situations as Jim has mentioned, and I kind of have to agree with him. Your H is "thick" and needs a rattling. Thing is, he may not even realize the damage he's doing to himself in addition to his family. Perhaps you giving him an ultimatum will provide him the opportunity to change, as we've all had our own opportunities to change?
Remember the last time you had an ultimatum (if "ultimatum" is the right word)? Your H actually got off his a$$ and went to C. I know you don't want to operate this way, but maybe give it some thought. Jeez...I really don't like saying this kind of stuff because we're all trying to make a go of it...but I think your frustration level continues to grow, and soon you'll be a WAW yourself if the dynamic between you two isn't changed.
It may be time to lay all the cards on the table. Living with the status quo clearly isn't working and hasn't for many years. Men can be so stupid when it comes to careers. We all know what's most important...
