I think men just show their appreciation in different ways.We have to be trained in the ways that a woman wants us to show it.You're H came home,do you really think he did it so he would have to work so hard,live with the guilt of what had happened,have to face his mistakes and the people that he hurt everyday because he didn't love you.Not hardly.The ones that D for another person or MLC or whatever pitiful reason that looks good that day are the weak ones. The ones that stay and fight are the strong ones.lets face it a R is work,true work you should enjoy.But we all go to work and have good days and bad days but we still go,some people change jobs because of the bad days and get a new one what happens after a while?that job has bad days too so either you figure that out or you just stay in the same cycle forever. LL you have went through alot and came so far,believe me I know exactly what you are feeling and it is hard,the hardest thing I have ever had to do but I'll be damned if I will give up after running this race for this long.You shouldn't either.Go to C by yourself or with H,get your feelings straigtened out and then if you feel the same way do what you feel you must.Forgive and love the ones closest to you