SH, I think you are getting better and better about analyzing the situation. I totally agree that the MLCer needs to detach. The MLCer needs to decide without the influence of the LBS. He/she will need to understand that it is worth the effort to work on the M or R. It is not an easy road in piecing. If the MLCer is not certain or if he feels he was forced into it, it will be a shaky coming back. In such sense, I think if/when your H comes back, because he has been away for so long, it will be for real. Let's hope so.
