Quote: LL --- I wasn't suggesting that you become a waw -- stuffing your feelings and expecations. I was asking if you could "let go" of the expectations -- not hold them in and feel angry and disappointed!
letting go of expectations is the easy part...still getting little if anything in return and being ok with it is another...
Quote: my first post this morning (and it apparently missed the mark) was an attempt to "wonder" if you could DB your current sitch -- back to the basics of -- what you're doing isn't working...you're not happy with current state of M....what could you be doing differently? what 180s might you try? what would some short term goals be, etc.
been down this road too many times already...
sure I can go about my business...act as if all is well...do my own thing...live life for me and the kids etc...
honestly what is the real point in that??
it was nice and fun and fine while h was gone...while h wasn't being a h...but to have a r with someone or rather to live under the impression you are having a r with someone but to do little if anything with them?? to share little if any quality time with them??
what's the point???
why wouldn't I then just say the hell with this r...live my life soley for me and not be bothered with h at all??
seems as if h is happy that way anyway...really wouldn't matter to h if I went out everynight...he'd be happy with it then at least he wouldn't have to feel bad that he has nothing to offer me.
