Fifth thread starting and it had become abundantly clear that regardless of what method I choose I am not making any progress.
I tried to be the greener grass. H continued behind my back.
I tried to play tough. H balked and continued behind my back.
I exposed to everyone, H moved out and continues to lie and now it is because of me "always having a plan" that we are at this point....
The depth of his lies are in question, is he living with OW, maybe. Is he contacting her since he moved out - definitely. Proof of that is easy to come by he has been gone for 3 weeks today. The phone bill covered the first 11 days, in 11 days there were 13 calls. They weren't marathons, 58 minutes total for all 13, one being 13 minutes long the night that he told me he was leaving before he walked in the door of my house. Still claims she is just his friend.
He tells me he is living at a friend's house that lives less than a block from here, part of me believes him, part of me screams NO at the first part.
I try to DB, but it does not work for me. When I did question H about the # of texts to OW he said that you never reply when I text you. The days I slipped up and did reply, there were no texts to her. This does not justify his actions but it does make me wonder if the ignoring his texts is a good fix for my sitch.
I am no good at being mysterious, or maybe I don't know how to do it right. Although H is God knows where he is very concerned about what I am doing every Saturday night(which is a whole lot of nothing). Last night I had a sitter because I was supposed to go see wrestling. H must have asked 50 times if I was doing anything or who with. I said maybe I am not sure. Finally I decided to go out for a bit, I got dolled up felt good, did some drivebys of some local hangouts but didn;t see any of my friends at any so I went to BINGO. Yes BINGO a real night on the town. I was going to go to the casino after but I was too pooped.(at 9:30 ) So I came home - H made the blocked call at 10:20.
Today when he came over I still had the necklace and ring I had put on last night(in place of my wedding ring which I have not worn for months(too big and not sizing it now)). H asked why I was wearing it. I tried to be mysterious.
me - Oh I put this on before I went out last night.
H - where did you go
me - just out
H - where did you go I am asking
me - no where special, nothing to worry about I was home by the time you called
H - did you have someone here?
me - no
H - are you sure it took you awhile to answer the phone
me - it was a blocked call I was considering not answering at all
H - I was driving by when I called I saw another car here(lie)
me - don't be stupid
H - where did you go tell me now
me - I don't need to I don;t know where you were
H - I have told you 100 times where I am, I am at (x's) same person he always says
H - now stop being an idiot and tell me where you were - were you at (bar)
D - chimes in - she was at Sobey's(a grocery store where I did go after BINGO)
Me - I did go to sobey's at one point
H - fine we were going to have a nice day but if you want to be this way D do you want to go out shopping with daddy?
D - No I want to go back to the park and play ball with mommy
H - D who was at the park with you playing ball,
D - no one
H- there were no other grown ups there?
D - no
Finally I gave in, as H got angrier and angrier (is this the point of being mysterious). Two hours later, H is still thinking about it "right, BINGO, nice story like I believe that."
) So I came home - H made the blocked call at 10:20. 
