wahtdidido, my H hasn't even ended his affair yet. H has had this relationship off and on (mostly on) during this time. H says she has nothing to do with us, the affair has nothing to do with us. Well we were not fighting before the affair and the affair is what we fought/fight about. H said he left because he couldn't take the fighting. I presume he couldn't take the guilt. Now his explanations of things make no sense, he even tried to tell me that Kansas has a law that if you are seperated for such and such a time you are considered divorced. I said fine let's just do that. He said no because then he would just need to file again in a couple of years. WTH? Yes, my lawyer says that is utter nonsense and is not true(about seperation = divorce after a number of years). Is the crazy talk a sign that he is starting to break or that there is more bad to come? kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
