Husband insists its over-what now? Please help!

[lea123]

Hello

Sorry, keep meaning to say I have got DR! It is great. Although have only skimmed through it, need to give it a 'proper' read.

I am torn between accepting its over and getting on with my life, to keeping a small glimmer of hope in my heart. For me personally, to have hope terrifies me because I don't want to be disappointed again. Having been through a similar but shorter seperation with him last year (it only lasted a week but was for the same reasons as this time), I'm not sure if I could go through this again. Especially as this bomb has come after a wonderful holiday together-we didnt have a cross word at all, just relaxed, ate and drank together, and made love every day! (sorry if thats too much info, just want you to understand my confusion). As a lot of my friends have said-could you ever trust him again? I just don't know. And now he has started texting this girl who has made it obvious to him that she wants him. I am worried it wouldnt just be a rebound relationship. They have a lot of stuff in common and physically she is 'his type'. It hurts a lot. He says I'm no longer the woman for him, and he is making contact with her. And him texting other women is not normal for him. He has hardly any female friends.

Also, not sure if this is significant, but when I was 19 and he was 20 he broke up with me then too! Again, the circumstances were strange, because he had just asked my mum to borrow some money to take me away for my birthday! She agreed, and the same evening he finished with me! I don't remember the ins and outs of the situation, but I remember it coming seemingly out of the blue and him saying that he didnt feel the same way about me anymore. We were still kids back then, living at home with our parents, and when I looked back I saw that the break was a good thing as we were able to meet new people and go and do our own thing. Then about 8 months later we got back in contact (I think he rang me out of the blue for a chat) and that was that. We had a couple of dates and got back together.

So in actual fact this is the 3rd time he has done this to me. Maybe there are some underlying issues??

Sorry just thinking out loud.

Anyway, H said he will ring the estate agents on Tuesday to arrange a valuation, and will come over next weekend to start getting the house sorted.

It sounds pretty over doesnt it!

Lea
xxx