Hi sweetie. I know, it's bloody hard. I think it's a cycle - you go through feelings of never-ending love, then sadness/dispair, then anger/hatred, then numbness... repeat.

The only trick I've learned is to stay really busy doing things that bring me joy. Yesterday and today I took my dog to the river. The weather is perfect and nature soothes my soul.

Maybe you should be the one to cancel if you're not feeling right mentally about your H right now...?

Right this minute, go do something that brings you some happiness. Here are some ideas:

Take a walk.
Go for a manicure/pedicure.
Catch a movie.
Go to a coffee house and enjoy your drink outdoors.
Go buy a pretty dress.
Visit a nursery or gardening center.

Wishing you happiness, sweet thing.


M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence