Sometimes I think making that kind of plan would be easier to live with than me wondering when the other shoe is going to drop. Any thoughts?
There are probably pros and cons to whichever plan you can come up with. Ultimately you just have to do what is right for you and your kids. If you can handle your H staying in the house and believe that it is in your D's best interest that you don't separate until she is more settled then you should try to do that. I have heard that an M stands a better chance when the H and W stay living together but it is much more difficult on the LBS. I have also heard that sometimes the crisis can be worked through faster if the WAS/MLCer leaves the home. You need to weigh through all the information and possible scenarios to come up with your decision.
