Our situations are very similar. My H is also on AD's which had affected his mood, and as it took months to find the 'right' medication as some of the side effects were awful and making him worse. (And of course put a strain on our marriage).
Like your BF, my H can do everything apart from be with me. He goes down the pub, plays in a band, they play card games a lot, and since he has been living with his dad he goes to his friend's nearly every night. He is also making contact with this OW.
When he moved out, he also decided that he didnt miss me enough as he should do a wife, and didnt think he loved me as he should love a wife. For the 1st couple of weeks he seemed very confused but he has always been leaning towards not coming back. Now he's made that final decision that we've grown apart and its not going to happen.
I guess my question is-how do you know when its over? There are no children involved so when our house is sold that will be it. We do not have the same circle of friends, so unless one of us initiates contact, that will be it.
I have been convincing myself for so long that his depression was affecting his emotions and our relationship, but actually I am starting to believe H was just a guilty man wanting out. I just find it so hard to know why-we have bought a wonderful house, just got a dog and cat, got married, and BAM! It was literally 4 months after the wedding that his 'symptoms' of depression started. Yet at our wedding he called me his soulmate and told everyone he had been waiting for this day for so long.
So confused at the moment.
Lea xx
Last edited by lea123; 05/04/0805:32 PM.
Me-26 H-27 T-10 years M-20 months First bomb-Feb 07 Second bomb-March 08
