I know it is hard but try and take the focus off of your H and focus more on you and your kids and start doing things with them or things you did not normally do with your husband that you are able to do now.
If your H wants to cut your grass or whatever, let him!
Be still and seek comfort in prayer, a church, with friends, etc.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19