I would definitely have qualms about about this if I were you, mainly b/c it would almost surely lead to heartbreak, and who wants to see their child heartbroken? But qoe is right: you can't stop her. She is over 18 and will do what she wants.
Are you worried about how you will cope on your own with Ryan? That would be an understandable concern. Perhaps it would be possible to ask Ashley to help occasionally with her brother. It would take some pressure off you, and also keep her involved in the family. You may even find your home life more pleasant with her living away. You will still see her, and it should give her a different perspective.
I'm sorry you are feeling down about this. Even if she doesn't appreciate everything you've done now, I'm sure she will someday.
~Nicola
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