One thing I was thinking is that it might be a good idea to send your response as an actual letter instead of email reply. Take the time to get it right and send - if he has a mailing address. It has more gravity that way - if you know what I mean. I think the pause in responding would also be a good thing - contrast that to the running around like a chicken mode.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now