Good morning whatdididi, I'm starting in on your original post because people can see your background info
I hope you are going allright today
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whatdididi: This limbo you talk about is horrible, for your spouse, too. She wants to leave, to be happy, to stop the pain she is causing you and herself, and yet...she stays....why? Because she WANTS to be home, she WANTS to be happy with you. You both should get that "After the Affair" book because it really does look at both sides and what both sides are feeling. She is immobilized right now. I know you are having a hard time being faithful, my H said he did, too.
I think its financial and the kids. If W was financially able to leave she would. If the kids were in school fulltime and we were not looking a them being home all summer I think she would leave. Perfect storm could hit in Sept 08 if she gets a fulltime job becasue kids will be in school fulltime. I'm going to get the book you recommended and regarding being faithful, I believe I speak for all men, we just want some lovin, to feel like a man again. I'm going to be faithful, because right now 3 is a crowd and 4 would be chaos.
Thanks for your thoughts, I'll keep an eye on your post
1 Corinthians 13 (New Living Translation) 13:4-7 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
I'm doing everything I can think of, trying to follow Gods will, forgivness, patience and love
patience is the hardest, the waiting
M45 W41 D9, D6, D6, S5 M 10 years 2 Dogs, 1 Cat OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 and still going ???
