And she wants to be friends while we go through this mess with what she is asking, can someone out there tell me how to be friends with someone who is trying to take you for everything you have and leave nothing in your wallet at the end of the month. I am having a hard time trying to imagine how I can't have hard feelings for her right now. Any advice please.
Ping, I believe our W's think of friendship as working together for the kids. This is not a friendship IMO. A friend is someone who is there in your darkest hour, a friend is someone who listens and does not judge. Once the L's get involved these sitches go downhill fast. The L's breed fear and contempt in our W's and in us. They make their money splitting us up and don't care about H or W or the kids when it all said and done.
How did you act around your W. Did you backslide last night. I believe you still have a chance Ping I really do. She is expecting to see "the ass" "the old Ping" once those papers hit your hands..
Why not show her the new Ping? Papers don't get the new Ping down. Show her confident, you can handle the papers being left in the mail.
Ping, another thing. My sisters husband, My BIL has maintained from the beginning that my W would not reconcile. He married my sis when he was 30. He had never been married but had 4 sisters and worked around a lot of women. He said he has seen this countless times. WAW. He says that he has seen some reconcile only to split again later. He said it never works. He says once they say the IDNLYA...they are done.
He says that the reason they are giving us mixed signals now is because 1. they don't want the stress of arguments and talks about the D. 2. he says they will lie so that there is no friction that they have to deal with 3. The L's tell them to play nice to our faces to keep friction down.
We need to play golf. Where are you in NC?? Charlotte? Raleigh? My W's FIL Is in Shelby, her B is in Raleigh. I go to the OBX every year to surf fish but missed this spring due to all that is going on. Maybe a fall trip for me.
