In Connecticut there's actually 'nesting'. The child remains in the family home and the parents alternate their time living there. It takes a lot of juggling, but it's more secure for the kids. (Kind of gives parents an idea how hard it is for the kids to shuttle between homes!)
Stay in the house. My husband wanted to 'live his own life'. One night I slept on the couch. Then I thought about it. I didn't want the marriage to end. I didn't want to leave. I went right up to my.. our room and thought.. this is OURS, not his or mine.. and will be as long as we are married. He chose to go to another bedroom. My feeling was that it was his choice, to remain in the room, leave, come back. It was OUR room.
That thinking helped meto be open, non accusatory and at peace with my actions.
Sending hope and prayers for you, your family and stepdad.
