My heart goes out to you and the kids. I know you havent posted much lately but I do think of you often.
I am okay. Still no contact today but that is okay.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I have had very little contact with H. The only contact was a few text messages back and forth late lastnight and that was the first contact since Monday when I saw him in the morning.
Other than that, he said he has been talking to S17 and they have been talking very late at night.
My situation is on the boring side at the moment.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Just the other day he said how much he missed being home, missed all of us, missed his own bed, etc etc etc.............
And so the spinning continues...................
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Gosh, SF, you always seem so level headed. You just see the stuff happening and it just goes on by. Sometimes you grab hold of something, hold onto it for a while... Other times you just let these things float on by. He calls, he doesn't call. He visits, he doesn't visit. He's home, he's out. And you just keep on going on your course. Steady steady. Is this Detachment?
M 43 S14 S13 D11 D7 Divorce final: Jan 2009 Making it up as I go....
You sound good and that's great. Yes, the spinning continues and probably will for awhile. You're so steady and calm and yes, boring is good right now.
I know he will contact you again soon--he still wants that connection with you. In so many ways, he seems a lot like my XH--the guilt they feel is overwhelming. I'll say a prayer for him and your family.
I guess it is and about as detached as I can possibly be.
You just learn to roll with the punches. I have been at this awhile now and am glad this is not the beginning!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
H came over about 3:30 as S17 and I were leaving and he asked where we were going and we said to the store.
Then he, D14, and D16 went out to a clothing store and he took them to dinner.
If you'll recall, D16 did not want anything to do with him but she asked him if she could tag along and of course he said yes. What had happened was D14 asked her dad this morning via text if he wanted to do something with her today and of course he said yes.
S17 and I got back way before they did, and I thought he would just drop the girls off but he came inside.
He and S17 sat on the patio for awhile, and then S17 went out to see his friends and D16 and I were in the back talking to H. D16 got her yearbook out and was telling us about who all signed it, etc.
H left about 8PM and told D16 to show him her yearbook tomorrow when he comes over. We still might BBQ late in the day though.
H ended up taking the rest of his clothes that I had put in a box but he ended up leaving his vitamins!! How weird is that--I had all of this in the same box but he leaves his vitamins, the stuff he takes everyday???? Weird.
We shall see what tomorrow brings...............I never expected any of this today.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
gosh, out of the blue, he texted me at 1:30AM and we texted for two hours....nothing much except he misses me and loves me and he said he had a nice time with the girls.
one thing i have learned is that God always works no matter what we think, or feel, He definitely works on people's hearts and minds and sometimes it is a slow process.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
