It was my birthday yesterday. It was a really nice day. I spent the day with my boys. We had a meal in the garden. The weather was lovely. In the evening, I went out for a meal with my new lady friend. It was so thoughtful of her to get me presents that she knew I liked based on previous conversations. We came back to my house and had a wonderful time.
I just want to say something about how my experience with ny STBXW has affected me in the sense that I still have difficulty trusting other women. When you have spent 17yrs with someone you thought was your best friend, wife and mother of your children. When she decides to give her love to someone else. You begin to wonder if people can ever be trusted. Then I ask myself, can I be trusted? I sure know I can. Yes there are no guarantees in life, but people are essentially good and it is the sum of their life experience or their perception of it that makes them who they are. So I am not going to allow this negative experience alter how I view relationships with others.
I also thought about the sitch with STXW and decided that I am not going to tell her dad and I am going to go ahead with the divorce. I will sign the decree Nisi when I get it to finalise the D. Naturally I will act on any concerns the boys may have in the future about the OM.
