I don't think I've ever posted to you before. Just want to say I'm sorry that you've separated. My H and I have been a few separations. He's been back home almost two years, but we had a couple of false starts before we both decided separating was no longer an option. We're happier than we've ever been, but I have to tell ya.... we've gone through the "there's something missing" thing. Actually, we'll probably always have that feeling because the passion and love of our youth is missing. That includes some of the attraction. I told him for six months that I don't feel the same.. I'm no longer madly in love with him. It spooked me and I didn't know if I'd ever be happy again. In the last couple of months though something strange and wonderful has happened. I've settled into a peaceful, deep, and secure love and adoration for him. As I learn to accept the new phase of our relationship it brings a much deeper happiness than we've known together. I had to stop looking back and worrying about what was missing. I had to learn to explore the love and trust we've built together.
I hope your M and your W is going through a phase and you come out of this a family again. There are so many blessings in a mature M.. the transition can be scary, but after 20 years, there's still much to be found and explored.
