I'm not sure why your L wants both of you to meet either. I met with my L alone, the only time we were all in one spot was when we had mediation & my L & I were in one room, H & his L were in another room. It's not fun! I was like you the first few times I met with my L all I could do was cry! I didn't want my D either but it went through April 8th. I'm still having such a hard time. I've been posting on the Newcomers thread but I guess I need to post here now. My H is going thru MLC too, has moved to another state with OW, quit his excellent job & didn't know her very well. Met her on a scuba diving trip June 2007 & from there they emailed, texted & talk on the phone. I had to do lots of snooping to find out about her. I'm still very heartbroken & hope that one day he will realize what he has done.
I agree with runningoutoftime, you need to find out exactly what your L is trying to accomplish with this meeting. Be strong!
