W2G and Confused thanks for offering your perspectives. I hadn't thought about some of those things but in light of what happened today it may be that he was trying to determine things. However, 2 questions made me think some of this was about OW. 1)the one about getting drunk and having s*x - I very rarely drank so I have no idea where this is coming from 2)the one about when we were going out whether I would get mad when he wasn't available. My H has always pursued many different interests on his own. I do know that his self esteem is at a really low point right now because he's out of work and that is so very important to him.
Update H called today and asked me if I think our M is salvageable, especially in light of the fact that we'll probably continue to live apart (different cities)due to jobs. I said that it could be salvaged but it would take a lot of hard work from both of us. First there are some issues that need to be addressed. He asked me to write down what I think I would need to be done in order to salvage the marriage, but that he can't guarantee he'll be able to do all of them.
That's where things stand at the moment.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
