Thinking of laughing at her requests to her and letting her know the game is on. I will have to see how I am when I get to the park.
Okay, ping -- I know what is in the papers is ridiculous, but what you typed above is of great concern to me since you've been doing so well.
Ask yourself why you would laugh at your W. Yes, the proposal is ridiculous, but why lower yourself to her or her lawyer's level by directly laughing at her? Be a bigger person and take the high road. If I were to bring it up, I would do so rationally, calmly, and professionally -- as well as at an appropriate time. Something like, "I received your separation papers yesterday and took a look at them. Honestly, I'm not in agreement with many of the requests, but I will go over it with my atty and come up with a reasonable response." If she tries to get into a discussion about it, you can tell her that you would prefer not to have that discussion at this time, and would rather do so with a mediator and/or your atty's present. Either that or strictly through your atty's (UNLESS you think you can both have this discussion without negative behaviors).
As far as saying things like, "the game is on," I would caution against it as it just stirs the pot. Again, why would you say it? How would it benefit you and/or the sitch? You can fight for what you think is fair without making such comments. Ping, you've made great strides of understanding your mistakes and bad behaviors in the M -- please continue searching yourself and making decisions and choices that will help you to grow. Even though it feels unnatural to do so, it will become a permanent part of you the more you make the conscious choice to do so.
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I will have to see how I am when I get to the park.
What do you mean by this? You aren't just a behavior that is uncontrollable. You ALWAYS have the choice to self-monitor your own behavior. You always have the ability to choose how to act and react. By making such a statement, you are allowing your actions to be dictated solely by your emotions, and worse is that you are condoning it by inferring that it is out of your hands or control.
Please think about these things. You have come too far already to begin backsliding like this.
