Oh my goodness h4h, you DID NOT f up!!!!! I'll tell you why I think so:
You talked and she listened. You made her hear what she needs to hear, because she is NOT hearing this from the OM and she is avoiding these thoughts in her head. It makes her feel guilty. You were able to tell her what you know about the "fog", how what she is doing is wrong, how it is bad for the kids. YOu got her to admit she keeps making mistakes!!!!!!!! (She said "he is not a mistake" but, in her mind she is thinking he made me realize what I was missing)
She told you her thoughts....she said she is in denial ( I thought that, too)....so, she doesn't want to divorce!!! She just told you she is trying to deny to herself that they have to divorce.....her heart is telling her the right thing to do and she doesn't even know it.
She doesn't like you you talking to B or she wouldn't have brought it up...could be good, could be making her jealous..could also give her a reason to leave if she makes it into something it isn't.
I'm so sorry about D11. This is so hard on your whole family and your kids are older and wiser and can feel the problems I'm sure.
SHE AGREED TO COUNSELING>>>>>>>PRO -MARRIAGE COUNSELING!!!!!! WOOOO HOOOOOOOOO! SHE AGREED ABOUT THE MEDS!!!!!!!
This is positive, h4h. Keep doing what you are doing. Help her make the right choice. Help her see what she does not see. Do NOT give up on her!
