hhhmmm- my thought is that maybe H is trying to determine how your M would be if you got back together- it sounds like he wants to make sure you'd be OK with him having some seperate interests- just a thought-
Maybe the s*x questions were because you aren't having s*x now and he wants to know that you would ML if you were back together-its just a thought but it seems that many men who know they treated you badly are afraid if they come back, the W will withhold s*x as punishment- not saying thats your case- just an idea-