Geez TP, I am just getting caught up with your latest thread and I got to say your H sounds a lot like mine, and both of us sound a lot alike!
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H is giving me the money required, but is not sticking to the visitation. He wants me to be flexible, but he won't.
Yep, same here. JA wants me to give, give, give but won't give anything in return.
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He agreed verbally in front of both Lawyers to do some things that he is now backing out on,
Same here too! My L asked his L and him "what is the point of verbally agreeing to anything if you guys always change your mind and don't stick to anything?"
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When I had to counterfile, my L asked the court to make H responsible for all attorney's fees. It was my understanding that was something that would be decided by the judge at the end of the case during the settlement phase
I also told my L that I wanted JA to be responsible for the attorney fees. I am hoping he will be considering a)I am a SAHM b) he is the one who had the affair and did not want to work on our M and filed for divorce c) why should my parents have to pay for it?
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If I don't give in to his every request, he spews
Get that too! They are like a 2 year old in a store that if they don't get what they want they get down on the floor and start screaming. It's a ploy to get what they want. Don't give in.
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He always wanted me to be a stay-at-home mom for our kids, but he did seem to start "looking down" on that. Asking "what do you do all day!" when things around the house weren't exactly to his liking
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There were a few times when we had some financial problems and I offered to get a job, and he didn't want that.
I'm telling you, twins!!! My H always said that he didn't want to put the kids into daycare and he did not want someone else raising our kids. After his MLC started he would come home and look around and ask what did I do all day. He acted like I did nothing but sit on my ass all day and watch soap operas. It would really bother me because I would do a lot during the day. Did he think the fairy godmother was the one who did his laundry and put it all away? Did he think she was the one who cleaned the house? Anyway, it was like walking on eggshells. Nothing I did was right. I thought I kept a clean house but I wanted to please him so I started to take extra good care of it. Didn't matter. He would come home and wouldn't say how nice the house looked, instead, he would look for something to complain about.
I remember the summer before his MLC hit, we were going through financial issues and I offered to get a job. He told me "no, your responsibility is to stay home with the kids and take care of them, let me be responsible for making the money. Besides which, with the type of job I have, I can't promise you that I will be home in time for you to go to yours." Now he goes around telling everyone I was too lazy to get a job.
Anyway, what is going on with your L? Is your H still pressing you on it?
