Minkerman: W asked if she could come home

[minkerman]

The hard part of this is being conscious of not moving too quickly.

I have to constantly remind myself to NOT do things that stink of dependency or weakness.

I am just SO happy that we have each other back again, that I want to smother her with attention. That would be a bad move.

For instance, this morning she was prettying up after her shower. I wanted to go in and sit with her, talk to her, stuff like that. I know eventually I will be able to do that and it will be natural...but for now I am being very casual about it. I just gave her a little pat on her bare butt and a kiss on the cheek, and went into the music room to play my guitar. Giving her space in her own house.

She is in school today, so I wanted to ask her when she'll be home. Instead, I told her I was going to pick up some sushi for tonight's dinner...what time should I order it for? "Oh, great idea, how about 6:30?", she said. Finding out when she'll be home without sounding needy.

On the other hand, she is putting deposits in the emotional bank account as well. She got up at 2:00am to go to the bathroom, and when she came back to bed, she started rubbing my back. This morning I commented and told her how nice that was. She said she is just so happy to have me in her space, that she wanted to just reach over and touch me.

Last night, we sat on the couch talking, sharing a bottle of wine and dipping crusty bread in olive oil & balsamic vinegar. Completely out of the blue, she looked over and said "I love you so much. Thank you for putting up with me." I told her, on the contrary, I would look back on this time in a positive way. Look where it got us! She said she agreed.

So, I think this is going really well. I am waiting for the roller coaster to crest the hill, but so far I just don't see it....we are awesome together, just like I thought we would be.