Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[JennyF]

blindsided,

Tomato had some great words for you...he's right..."just keep going, you're headed in the right direction".

Also, ST made some great points about the resentment being passed on.
MO2 once posted to me...
"Acid does more damage to the container in which it's held than to the object on which it is poured". Acid = Resentment

This is where acceptance will ensure that you provide the best possible environment for you and Kendall given THESE circumstances. You are still focused on the loss of your family...all of the losses and all of the hurt. I get it. Trust me you know I am right there with you. But there are positives in your future...there are positives in your present...but you need to stop focusing on the past or the "what could have been's" of the future. You can not predict the future...so make the best of now.

I still have out is my wedding ring, sitting on my finger, reminding me everyday that I am M to a man who doesn't love me or want to be M to me.

I think this is a good example of how you are keeping your focus on the downside constantly. If this is what the ring does for you...take it off! For a while you'll miss having it on. You'll reflect when you look at your bare hand. But you can also choose to look at your bare hand and see the strong hand of an independant woman. One who doesn't need that symbol to complete her. CHOOSE to put a positive spin on things...not the constant loss and negativity of it all. Sometimes even if you can't put a positive spin on things...just don't put the negative on it either. In other words...just don't focus on it.

You're going to be really busy soon enough that you won't have time to let all this weigh on you constantly. Trust me that is a good thing...when my S was born it was a welcome relief not to have my mind racing constantly about H.

Like tomato said...your headed in the right direction.
J~