Well, for my opinion, I'll have to agree with Stella. Look at it this way....what would you do if everything was fine in the M? If you want the job....go far it. If your W "comes around" then great. If she doesn't, then you have your new job and a new place to live, etc. It would help you to put some distance there from her.....if and this is a great big IF.....if you can keep your mind on your work and not on what may or may not be going on at home. B/c if you can't keep you mind on your job, it would only add stress. You can't control what she does and the space might be good for both of you. She would have "breathing space" and you would have help with detachment....if you could handle the homecoming each time. You never know what to expect. You can't keep hanging on to the "if onlys" b/c more than likely, she will not meet you at the door and fall into your arms happy to see you. But, maybe in time that will change. If she sees that you are going to live your life the way you want to....it may help to open her eyes and especially if the OM doesn't leave his W. I know it's a big decision for you. But, I don't think I would ask her to many questions about what she thinks you should do.....b/c right now, she would not give you the answer you are wanting her to say. How long to you have before giving your answer to the company?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
