Pregnant and heading for acceptance #2

[S.T. _I Made It!]

Glad to see you posting about the things you have to do this week. Keep focusing on that first communion, that should be a great day!

On seeing your D face in the ultrasound.

I really don't know which would be worse, but I would be thankful that your D doesn't have to go thru the traumatic experience of losing her dad. Although I hate to see children not have a "full" family, I would think it would be harder for her to have her dad be there and then months or years later him do what he did now.

You both are going to have a strong bond with each other. Try to focus on that.. the love between you two. You don't want to place any bitterness, sadness, or resentment in your D because of what your feeling towards H in your own heart. If you are having it inside you, you will eventually transfer it to her as well. Meaning, she will learn this from you and have a hard time with R's with men.

Also, (not saying this is you or would happen, but) sometimes when a person is angry/resentful/bitter against their spouse, their R with their child they had at that time can be damaged. like, you could unconsciously sabatoge your own R with your D because of the anger you have towards H. again, not saying that would happen, but sometimes I think it may have happened to me and my own s9, because my H wasn't really there back then, and we had him out of wedlock so I was bitter about that.