yes, it is. And H could have avoided all of this if he hadn't been such a control freak.
WAS really don't mind inflicting the worst kind of pain, but they sure don't like being on the receiving end, do they? Again.....LMAO!!!!!!
Oh, and something else I just found out: My H has already BOUGHT A HOUSE WITH OW!!!! Why are they so stupid? H isn't even D'd yet!!! Can't wait to tell my L tomorrow.
Yeah, I was enjoying my victory in court for a bit, but now, I just feel sad again.
Even though I am letting my L be the "bad guy", it doesn't really help. My H hates me even more than before. We have zero contact, so I have no chance at all to DB. Game over for me.
A mutual friend, actually a co-worker of my H, called last night to say hi and that he and his wife got the graduation announcement I sent them. We chatted for a bit, he asked how I was doing, how was my dog doing, etc. Fine, fine, I say.
I never brought up H once. Never asked about him, nothing. I don't know if this friend was fishing for info for H or not, but I believe he is a nice guy who is concerned for both H and I.
I know that getting this kind of news is another blow, but hopefully it's another link in the chain of detachment. First of all, I don't believe it's you that he hates at all. He's just projecting. He doesn't like himself but he has you to divert those bad feelings away from him. Actually I really don't think most of the WAW's HATE the LBS. They just need justification and the mistakes we may have made give them ammo.
I think that was so nice of husband's co-worker to make the call about the party. What you said about him being concerned for both of you is probably the truth. Who knows, he might not agree with what your husband has done and you handled the call really well.
Take care Kimmie. Chances are it may get worse before it gets better!
Oh, I know it's going to get worse. Right now I still have a "husband" in the legal sense. But when that ends, I'm afraid that I will be at square one and fall apart again.
Was for me also. Even in Fault states that ball is extreemly difficult to stop.
My L was honest and offered to slow it down a few weeks but that is akin to an expensive speed bump.
When the better days do come and they will you will not take them for granted. I had what some call a few false dawns or I called (in stock market terms) the dead cat bounce. Whereas things start to get better then return to the pit.
Even then Do not despair you will climb out.
This is such a great post. I just had to say that. An expensive speed bump, love it! Also, I am having a few too many dead cat bounces at the moment - a bit like a cartoon character falling down the stairs ...
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
