Ready for the long ride.

[LucasE]

Wahoo! You guys are like heros to me. Thanks for your time.

I'm gonna hold off on the OM question, although it is hard to disagree with MM. Two months of no R talk. I'm not ready to backslide just yet. Maybe there will be another way to achieve MM's intention without bringing up OM. I think the "lack of trust" is the key to what MM is saying. I will keep an eye on the compost pile of squashed emotions that lie deep within me somewhere.

As for the over achieving goal, thanks JTB. That is exactly what I was afraid of. How about: In two weeks we will have a friendly conversation that is not about the kids. We had one a week ago and I was on cloud nine. It sure doesn't take much these days. Anything is better than the norm.

UPDATE: I got a text at 4:45 PM. "Hi. (D7) asked to spend the night with (best friend) and I decided it was okay. I'm taking (s4) to (her place), so you can stay at (family home). Hope your (job) is going well."

No love but she didn't need to text at all so I say it's a good thing. Staying at the family home is no bonus when it's empty. She goes to her place because that's where she is set up to do her work.

My response would be "Cool. The (job) is going well. We got four good ones in a row. Hope your day was good."

I am holding off on my response for now. Give it some time. I want to say "That sounds good to me. I hope you guys have fun. How was your day? My (job) is going well.

I don't feel like I can ask how her day was. I think it is because when I do she usually does not respond. So now I don't ask. As if asking is a little too much pressure from me. Is this walking on eggshells? Is that a bad thing?