Going Forward: Thanks for the reply. A few answers for you. Yes I am still around for the visits. I tried to go out when he came around and I felt like I was missing an opportunity to see him as it really is my only contact with him (hmmm i guess that is not going dark but I found that when I went out I got really upset that I had missed the opportunity to see him!). Visits seemed to get better with him becoming friendlier and then suddenly cold even more than ever before.
Going dark is hard when u have virtually no contact anyway.Suppose only way would be to leave when he visits d, when I go to another room he usually ends up following me there cos d looks for me.
As for GAL - I moved out of my parents place into an apartment on my own (first time in my life on my own - moved in with h only after we were married, otherwise always lived with parents). Got a job. Started horse riding. Hooked up with old friends. Started a relatively small home business (not too active yet but it will get there!!!). Got a piercing that I always wanted). Went to a rock concert. Attempted a date to see what it was like, did not enjoy it and told guy i was still wanting my h so i was not interested in anything else but friendship. Started enjoying my own company and realized that I am worth it and I am a good package. (If you don't mind me asking did you go on any dates? Was your h as cold as mine?)
