So have you settled on a mediator? Did H actually follow through on one? I will be very interested to see how this goes for you. I think my H has in his head (at least he did this time last year, i'm sure with the encouragement of his lawyer OW) that somehow he/we would just come to agreement between us and file pro se. No way... I really don't want a confrontational situation, but don't trust myself to be enough of my own advocate all on my own.
