Help Me Act AS IF, Part 5

[newnamenewlife]

I know. I have been doing pretty well, being strong, but last night's convo just took me down. Detaching sounds great, but it seems to be a process. Each time I detach a bit more, some flesh gets ripped off.

You know the Ferber method for getting babies to sleep better? I feel like my H is using that on me--he lets me cry, suffer, hurt and doesn't come to me but instead forces me to self-soothe. Self soothing is empowering, but it's also very lonely.

Anyway, onward...