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I should be reconciled or divorced by now for goodness sake!

Dar,
If you feel you should be divorced by now you could easily set that in motion. Since that is not what you want, there is no shoulda. And there is absolutely no *shoulda* as far as reconciling goes. There just isn't. There is just today. This moment. What is good about Dar's life today?

*hugs*
~ swl

Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}