"He even told me that he wants the baby so he can show her off like a trophy to his friends."

I wouldn't take that too bad B. I think that's a typical guy response. They are just proud, and are wanting to show off their baby.

on the smoking thing, that is pretty insensitive/selfish, but possibly since he was already in his mind, not M to you, that he was doing it because of control. A lot of the things they do, IMHO, is due to control.


I think your doing really good now B, just keep it up. and remember, you DON'T want your H the way he is now, but perhaps by your efforts and God, he will change.

Me 33 H 34 S9 S3
M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs)
EA/PA 1/2006
DB 5/2006
H wants D 6/2006
H wants ME 8/2006
H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006
H erased OW off phone! 2/2007

"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."