i broke every dbing rule and guideline. i was so anger for h contacting me after such a long time. he started off with he wants to be a father, is going to be a father to our d and things like that. it really upset me, NOW he wants to after months of not being there for her, no support nothing and now. he said he wanted to start there, i kept telling him, my d does not go anywhere without me, i rarely get to work out for an hour at the gym since she suffers such sep anxiety from me. like i would let him take her him being a stranger. after a while talking it comes to, he wants to have another baby, wants his family, misses us arguing, i don't know i may just be looking at all the positive stuff. i left the convo last night with just leave us alone we were doing well without him and i don't want nor need anything from him and then i texted him today. i felt bad, i feel like im punishing him for what he has done over the past months. i texted him that he must have been asking for outside help from a higher power since this saturday would have been an anniversary for us and i'm going to the very place we met to get out when my daughter goes to bed for the night, he texted me back with do want to meet at our restaurant, i asked if he was talking to me, and he called me back to say he couldn't text at the moment that he would call me after he got done with work. so that is where we are at.
Me 40 H 30 D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months H walked out nov 1, 2009 Seperated ever since filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10
When he calls tonight please take a deep breath and try not to be angry. Try to have a positive attitude and act as if. Being angry will make him feel guilty and he'll run for the hills.
I would meet him at the restaurant on Saturday. This would be your chance to really shine. Find the perfect outfit, get your nails done and try to look super.
You don't have to accept him 100% right now. Set some boundaries and stick with them. Little by little let him show you and D that he's willing to work on your Rs.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
It is great he is coming around, as Jen said, set your boundaries and start from there. If you feel you can relinquish your anger and work on your M then you are in a good state. For many LBS that I am finding, sometimes by the time the WAS wants to come back, they are too angry and hurt to accept them. Pray about this and ask for guidance.
I would meet him at the restaurant on Saturday and start from there.
well all is off. after talking to him for a bit, he is not trustworthy and goes back and forth. it just feels like i'm being toyed with. yeah says he wants to work on things but doesn't really mean it.
Me 40 H 30 D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months H walked out nov 1, 2009 Seperated ever since filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10
it is so like that. i am so anger and hurt by all of what he has done. i know i'm at blame for this as well. but no money for our daughter, not seeing her for months, not going to the hospital, he's the same. asked me today how to work it out. i don't think i can accept him. he's been with other women and now suddenly wants me and his family back...
please explain this to me?
all i feel like is a doormat and just wnat to hurt him as much as he has hurt me and our d
Me 40 H 30 D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months H walked out nov 1, 2009 Seperated ever since filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10
i am so confused i don't know what to believe. he says the one woman he has been with was me. I don't know what to believe or just let it go?
latest update: he went to the resturant friday technical day of anniversary, i wasn't there, he went home then was at my door at 1 am since i turned my phone off. i guess i didn't get a text from him earler in the day saying to meet him there.
he shows up at house not totally po'd but a little disappointed my phone is off, and me not going to dinner. tells u how we understand things , he has anniverayr on the date i used it as the day of: so he then comes in lays in my bed, kicks his shoes off and says goodnight. our d woke up, i was feeding her for awhile, so after she went to sleep i layed next to him. , one thing led to the next and we ML, while we are ML, he says i'm coming over every night to ML to get you pregnant.
Me 40 H 30 D19 previous marriage, d3 and s10months H walked out nov 1, 2009 Seperated ever since filed for d nov 2010, served h 12-22-10
