She asked if I would take care of them at her new place...I said I could watch them there or just keep them at my house.
it has a lot to do with how pleasant things are with you two. And the things she is doing seem like you can do things in a non-confrontational way such as peck good night and hugs. Having said all of that, this is how I handle these kind of things now...I would not have said my house. If I can help out, I say something like that would be great, good, or something like that...positive, nothing negative, and short response. You know listen more, talk less. No novel needed in your response, she will tell you all about softball if you let her...lol. Sometimes my W will offer choices like in this case she might have said my place or your place. When she does that I say something like whatever is most convenient or easier for you. Something like that. I give her that kind of 'control'. Because, in my mind, these kind of things don't make a bit of difference. It lets her make choices. If she views you as controlling then this is a simple way of doing a 180. You are not controlling it a bit. Often, it's these kind of little things the WA, in my opinion, feels that the LBS is controlling.
I'd also like to say that her asking you to come to her house w/o her there is interesting in my mind. And that in itself is a positive. I think it shows a lot of trust and closeness. Certainly shows she is not awkward toward you in her life.
I know court stuff always in the mind but I don't see how you keeping them at her house is a strike against you. Could even be a positive there. Regardless, it is time and that is what I would think is most important...heck if you got them and went to the public park and then back to W's would that lose you a point in court. I doubt it. You have a home and job I am sure and that is what they look at.
If you are really concerned about where children then when the next time comes around just say something like, I was thinking of taking them to the park, pizza, wherever, if that is ok with you, and then swing by my house watch movie, see the new whatever...anything...I just would not create a controversy and I certainly would say anything about 'next times' now. Let her handle it...btw, I think it is worth pointing out that I do not think this is one of those doormat issues. So, I wouldn't worry about that either. She wants and needs you to do something at her place. I think that is all positive...
just my 2cents...sorry about the jumble...work, no revision time...
