Good job!! This can be nothing more than info gathering. I KNOW it is hard. I did it right after H left and it was one of the hardest things I had done, but I actually felt a little more comfortable after doing it. I would recommend writing your questions down because you will be nervous and will probably forget somet things. You need to take advantage of the time you have.
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Well Rob, this is what a DB phone coach told me to do when he was playing this game in January. She said one night just don't come home because he expects me to be there whenever he decides to arrive. So by staying the night somewhere else, he will see that I am not sitting around waiting for him to come home. I thought it sounded like a good idea.
I am going to have to say that I agree with your DB coach. I know what you are saying Rob, that we shouldn't do things in order to get a reaction or be manipulative....but hey, it could be a nice break from the tension in the house. Maybe he would see what it is like to worry where you are. I just don't think it is a bad idea. He expects you to be home waiting for him...if what we are doing isn't working ...then do something different right?
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You know Kris, everytime I have tried to tell him to pay some of the mortage or bills he has refused. I am not sure how to make someone do anything.
I completely understand your frustration. How do you make someone give you money? How do you make him leave? I don't know the answer to those questions. That is why it is important to see the lawyer. Ask him/her these questions. It has to be addressed, otherwise he will continue to do what he is doing.
