The flame is flickering out...

[SirPrizeMe]

nutty
I think you need to work on your own empathy.

What was the 'this' you were refering to if not your relationship / behaviour?

Our relationship, yes, it obviously was painful at that time.

If you had done nothing wrong why do you accept that the sight of you causes her pain?

Why is it my "fault" if she is in pain? Why must it be me? IS there any other possibility? (by the way, Earlier, was it you that said I needed to get beyond right-v-wrong and laying blame? )

Why do you say 'I don't want to cause you more pain' if you did not cause her pain?

If I see she is in pain, can I not say, I don't want to add to it? If you care for someone in pain, can you not compassionately wish to avoid more pain without accepting responsibility for the pain in the first place?

I'm asking you to back off, Nutty.