Hello and Happy Spring!

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Liz7 - I think that what are going to try and do is try and not make if confrontational, hence having a drink and sitting outside by the fire, We are going to try and keep it more to feelings, because one think we have learnt and try to stick by from the retrouvaille weekend is that feelings are neither or wrong, they are feelings, and therefore you can't condem someone for those feelings.
I can't guarantee it will stay that way because we are going to be dealing with a very load issue.
I am not going to lay blame and will try and stay away from saying its all your fault...I think that is important, because I don't want to close this door once its been opened, because I believe that doing this will give us greater communication.
But we shall see!

Thanks for the advice KLM, i have heard of that book,but not had a chance to read it.
I do believe that spouses feel that our feelings are irrational or that we are making more of them then we need to, you know blowing it out of proportation, and they need to see that isn't the case! They have no idea what it is like for us, because they can only see it from there own perspective, and maybe that is a 2 way feeling, and so I hope by us both talking and listening it will give us both a better perspective.