If he wants to be single that will mean that I am no longer a part of his life in any way. He can come and go as he pleases, but don't expect me to be there to help him at all in any way.
Will he be required to give you money towards the mortgage? If he isn't...then you ARE helping him and he is doing some major cake eating. He would be able to come and go as he pleases with no rent/electricity/car/cable/internet bills? Why WOULD he leave??? It is just something to think about.
If you aren't ready to make him leave or at least require him to start contributing then I think you should go dark without having this conversation with him. Otherwise, he will never take you seriously.
