Refuse To Lose, Part VII

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RTL,
Continue to fight for the truth. I have had to tackle some things in my D that have helped get over the accusations and make me a better person. As long as you continue to learn and grow from all of this it will only make you as a person better.

A co-worker of mine told me that you really do not know a person until you divorce them. When I filed, I did not want to continue the R with my STBX becuase it was not the person that I married. Now after 4 months of processing, there is no way I would want to rekindle things because of who I have found her out to be. If she did come back and want to work it out I would defintiely consider it for the sake of our S but there would have to be so many changes on her part that the chances are between slim and none...

Keep your focus on you and your D, that will help you push on. I have made an effort to try and make my S life as stable as possible and continue to build the relationship that when the time comes that he begins to ask questions about all of this that he will know I am telling him the truth. Do the same with your D and there eventually will be a time where they will not take sides but they will be able to decide for themselves who is more trustworthy...