You are in a difficult spot. In some ways I wish that my W didn't file for D and was like your H. But then again, what are you getting out of this? A big part of the M is the partnership, affection and commitment. If they take that away, why stay in the M? I feel for you in that you may have to use the James Dobson "Tough Love" techniques to gain your self respect and force a conflict/decision. Have you read this book? Your H wants to have his MLC Cake and eat it too.....
My W is trying to dress and act like a 20YO. Classic MLC. She is really into the myspace/im/youtube scene. She seems to think that after the D that she will be free and careless w/o any resposibility or accountability. She will be..... for a short time.
I have thought about your sitch and its seems that you need to force a decision at some point. Is he still in an A?? Is there still an OW?? Or is he just fishing???
