Trying Hard to Detach

[Starshyne]

I hate to say that my H is in a MLC, because I dont' even know what that exactly means and it does sound like an excuse. My IC said that it sounds like he is having an "identity crisis." I am not sure what the difference is. He is 37 and acting like a 17 year old. I know that much.

I think the key is to force our S to see what life would be like without us. I know that I do a LOT of things for my H that he doesn't realize. I have done them because I am his wife, but he is no longer treating me like his wife, so I am dropping those things out. Even if my house is a mess, I am not going to pick up after him anymore. I have done it for 7 years (today marks 7 years exactly since our first offical date) and I am not doing it anymore. I hope it does make him nervous.

My H has told me that he doesnt' want a D. Maybe that makes me a little different than others here. He wants the life of a single man with marriage benefits. Do you feel like your wife is this way? She wants to be married but also single at the same time?

I do agree with you...it is very difficult to love your spouse so much and have them treat you so poorly. It hurts like no other pain. When I got married, I did not agree to any of this. But here we are...

Sara