I would snoop or spy (or whatever you want to call it) because I believe that I have a right to know what is going on if or when my wife is acting weird. I would do what is necessary to find out the facts and put an end to my wondering. YOu see, I believe that you are showing weakness by allowing her behavior to seem ok to you. It isn't ok. The question though would be how do you show strength and how does one act around someone acting like she is. We can't address that until we know all the facts. The game plan is determined by the opponent, no? I don't know enough in my own mind yet to honestly tell you what direction to take and how to act or what to say.
I agree about the 8:00 to 2:00 comment. What does it mean? I don't know. That's why I am advising YOU to find out. Your game plan should be based on what the facts are. I don't think we know the facts. A good detective gets the facts.
You seem to be feeling guilt about spying. Or is it that if she IS having an affair or interested in someone that you are secretly telling yourself that if you avoid the snooping that you can convince yourself there is nothing going on?
My point is that I would find out. Decisive. The only way to find out is for her to screw up and get caught in a lie or for you to catch her in a lie by snooping.
The thing is that she may or may NOT be interested in someone else. She may or may not be pregnant. However, she is doing things that make me wonder and I am NOT even emotionally involved. I think that you are trying too hard to give her the benefit of the doubt. The facts are that there should be NO DOUBT in your mind. When there is a doubt, I would take it as a sign that my intuition is talking to me.
My advice...
Get a plan to check up on her story. She is giving you reason to doubt. She is the one acting strange, not you. You are just picking up on it.
Don't get caught because it will get turned around on you by her. Of course, the detective that you are, I am sure this isn't your first rodeo in detective work.. LOL....
GL-I believe your reading me wrong. I don't feel any guilt about snooping. I have snooped from the beginning because my little inner voice is telling me something is up. I don't have the $$$ means to put a PI on her or it would have already been done.
I plan on finding out. if she is having an A then that is a deal breaker for me..I HAVE NOT AVOIDED SNOOPING. I have took extrmeme means to find out what she is doing. Tomorrow I take another step.. I am not giving her the benefit of the doubt I am actively attempting to make sure whether she is or isn't seeing someone.
Thanks for the advice and comments. They are really appreciated.
