Bagheera, Thanks for the advice. This may or may not be right, but my perspective is to try and rebuild a frindship/ relationship with my wife at this point with no expectations of the romantic. Maybe I can awake the inner sensuous woman (lot of optimism here!) by completely ignoring that bird! About the dates though, it wasn't just that we sometimes didn't have sex after a date, it was always! I can not recall any dates including birthdays or anniversaries where we actually consumated.
