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[Nutty Chick]

Are you saying her fear of losing the children has caused her to tell lies that could possibly result in her losing her children?

Yes. But like I said, I don't know if it is lying or just a lack of familiarity with reality.

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I think she may be reviewing the past through hurt eyes. There must be a lot of pain in her heart and that is intensifying what she is feeling.

I don't understand the question. Her "fears were real." you mean, she was AFRAID that I would want 50% custody of my own children? Ok, if that is what she was afraid of, then yes, the fears were well founded. But is that a reasonable fear? I mean, come on, it's a divorce. It's 2008. What does she think will happen to the kids?

yes I do mean that. I would not allow my son to live my H 50% of the time. Very few mothers would. Very few courts would allow that. I don't believe that would be in the best interest of the child. Yes they need 2 parets but they need continuety and routein more. I can't believe you would think it Ok for your children to live half and half with you and your wife.

And what do you mean, was I "just trying to scare her?" ??

Yes, I really expected to get the kids 50% of the time. And I still do. And I disagree with the implicit premise in your question - you asked Did you really expect her to let you have the kids 50% of the time ...? It's not her decision, is it? The kids are not hers to award as she sees fit. They are my kids too, are they not? What does it mean to speak of her "letting me have the kids" ? It is not her prerogative. The children are not her possession.

I think the children should have some say in where they go.
In the Uk you would have very little chance of getting your kids with you 50% of the time if your W did not agree.



What I meant about scaring her was, were you trying to make her behave in a way you wanted her to by threatening to take her children away.

There is ZERO contact allowed. I am not "showing her" anything. Zero contact is zero contact.

Come on, you know as well as I do you are getting to her through friends, family and your kids.

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Lies? or Delusion?

or denial ...?

I don't know.

me neither ...


But it is a pretty elaborate thing for your W to do if there is NO truth here.

Nutty.