Hi, ss2. When you posted on my thread, I thought your screenname looked familiar, then it rang a bell! I think I posted to you once before.

You said you've gone dark on your H before. In what way? What exactly have you done?

I remember you saying H was very adamant about you being around during his visits with D. So tell me please.....Have you been there every time?

I do find it very interesting that he declares his "love" for OW and has no intention of ever coming back.....YET he still wears his wedding ring????? Wow. What is that??!!!

As for filing D papers, like I said on my thread, DO NOT do it if you are not 110% sure that a D is what you honestly want. I DO, however, believe you need to do whatever you possibly can to protect yourself and D financially. He is her father, and he is obligated to help care for her. Have you thought about filing for a legal separation, just for now? I'm sure that you could probably ask for back-pay in child support. 7 months worth at the moment, right? Talk to an ATTY. Write down any and all questions you might have and have it handy in case you forget anything during your consultation. Do some "shopping" in the phone book or even online for ATTYs. Some give free consults - a good thing if you're financially strapped.

In the meantime, continue to detach (treat your H as you would treat someone who was just a friend - no matter how cold he seems to be) and GAL - what have you done in this area lately? What are your GAL activities? I know it is difficult to forget about your troubles, but you do have to give yourself a break every now and then. Take care of YOU - don't forget that.

Let us know how you are doing. People do care. \:\)

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell